- Bachelor of Arts Degree, University of North Dakota
- Master of Psychology with an Emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy, Chapman University, Orange, California
- Coach Approach - Institue for life Coaching Training. 2013
- Licensed Professional Counselor, South Dakota. 2005 - present
- Substance Abuse Counselor, South Dakota. 2006 - present
Who I Am
As your grief coach I offer a non-judgmental sacred space for healing. During our time together you will choose how to proceed in your session. My approach to coaching is the belief that you know what you need to heal. During this healing process my job as the coach is be your companion. As your companion I listen to your story with my ears and my heart. Often times in grief it can seem so lonely. Your family and friends have gradually stopped wanting to talk about your grief. You can feel like an outsider because the rest of the world moved on, and you have not. I will sit with you silence while you cry, scream, and talk about your loved one. I move at your pace, never forcing you to go faster or slower than you decide to proceed. My personal belief is that you never recover from grief. The deceased person continues to be a part of your life in a different way. It is learning how to be without their physical presence is the difficult part of grief. This approach includes looking at your grief, and how it affected all areas of your life including your spiritual life.
Coaching helps you rebuild your life the way you want it to be. With this in mind I suggest coaching occur 9 months to 1 year after the death of the loved one. This gives you time to adjust to the idea that the loved one is gone.
Before my career as a Life Coach specializing in grief I was a counselor. Then, in June of 2011 my son died unexpectedly. Having never experienced a major loss before my life was turned upside down. In my attempts to make sense of this loss in the context of my life I realized what I had been taught through my education and experience as a counselor was not accurate. In educating myself about grief through my own experiences, conversations with other grievers, and current grief theories I learned the mental health field patholgizes grief. It is treated more as a mental illness.
I wanted to work with grievers; however, I now believe that coaching is a better option for assisting grievers. In counseling the therapy is driven by therapists' agenda and diagnosis. Due to the uniqueness of grief each person needs to be allowed to determine for themselves how to incorporate this loss in to their lives.
This journey through grief working with grievers is sacred. It is my belief that joining with another in this journey allows for each of us to learn about each other while making sense of the losses in our lives. In this journey we will use different modalities of healing to facilitate your journey through your own grief. These modalities may include meditation, yoga, massage, the use of essential oils, and crystals.